When bad things happen, our lives turn inside out and upside down.
Illness, divorce, cheating, getting hurt, being attacked, raped, or abused. Betrayal. Cancer. Cruelty. Death. They jump into the ring against their will. They throw us to the ground suddenly, violently, and insidiously. We lay there confused, scared, delirious, and shaken.
Slowly, we find our feet. We slowly get back into a world that keeps going as usual while we try to find a new and altered point of view, a new meaning, and a fresh start.
Healing Takes Time.
Crisis happens. Every day after, trauma touches us. Luckily, happily, and thankfully, there are lessons to ponder as we walk through it and start embracing them. Here is what might help you heal, whether you’re getting over one trauma or tragedy or more than one.
Take Care of Yourself.
You need to take extra care of yourself right now and for a long time. This is easy to say but hard to do, especially if you are a habitual caretaker (women, mothers take note). But you must focus on yourself first, even if you have kids or other people to look after. Even if you don’t want to, you must take care of yourself. Even if it goes against your habit or nature.
Healing from a loss or trauma is hard on your whole body. It changes you emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. To heal, you need to heal on all levels. Pay attention to both your mind and your heart and spirit. If you can eat, eat fresh, healthy, nutritious food. Go for a walk. Use sleep aids until you can fall asleep on your own. You can pray, meditate, or find comfort in other ways.
Respect the good and beautiful things about yourself as you change, reflect, heal and get better. Remember this: you are not replaceable. You are valued. We love you. You deserve the very best care.
Let Yourself Feel What You’re Feeling, No Matter What It Is.
Our culture puts a lot of emphasis on putting down feelings, especially difficult ones like grief, anger, fear, suffering, and confusion. Try to change this social norm.
Let yourself feel and say what you’re feeling for your own good. If you’re angry, let yourself feel the anger and its underlying impulses. If you’re sad, you can be as sad as you want. But, if something makes you happy, go with it. Our emotions are changeable and constant. Learn to recognize, name, feel, and experience them.
When You Need To, Take A Break.
Living with trauma is a job that never ends. It seems like you can’t get away from it sometimes. Trauma shows up in the way we think and feel. It affects our faith and the way we treat each other. It makes it hard to sleep and hurts our health. Its hold can be strong.
Taking a break from trauma takes determination and requires resolve. Take a break from it for a while. Try something new and get out of your normal routine, even if it’s just for a few hours. Tell yourself, “I’m taking a short break. I’ll put this aside for now. I deserve a break.” Then choose something fun (but not dangerous) to let you detach for a spell.
Don’t forget what makes you happy brings joy and peace. Try something new or go back to the same activity you used to enjoy. This short break is good for your mind, heart, and spirit.
Learn the Art of Healing from Jessica Sauls Book “You Have to Feel to Deal”
Life is full of challenges. At times, it seems like it’s one problem after another. It can be difficult to know how to deal with all the stress and anxiety that comes with life’s challenges. That’s where Jessica Saul’s book, “You Have to Feel to Deal,” comes in. This book is the perfect guide for learning how to deal with life’s challenges in a healthy way.
Sauls teaches readers that it’s okay to feel their emotions, but they need to learn how to deal with them healthily. She provides readers with practical tools for healing their minds and bodies. “You Have to Feel to Deal” is the perfect book for anyone who wants to learn how to deal with life’s challenges in a healthy way.
